can a boy and a girl really be just-friends?
a question i have been pondering on since time immemorial. haha. meh, i was just overwhelmed with all the cliches in the world involving that controversial friendship between a man and a woman. come on, i know, one way or another, you too have been on a debate about this matter — either with your crazy friends or just with your curious old self.
okayy, i was planning on laying down here things that would defend the yes and later on, the no, but i guess am too biased. HAHA. because personally, i dwell on the negative side.
indeed. i believe a boy and a girl can never be just-friends. because as implied of what i’ve mentioned above, at some point, one (or maybe even both) of them is bound to fall for the other, whether in secret or out in the open; that after some time, either (or both) would realize the worth of the other is more than that overrated confidant they think they have; that no one could help it when love itself caught one (or both) of them unguarded, breaking that supposed bond of forever-friendship. thus, it’s either that boy and girl become boyfriend-girlfriend — or not friends at all (obviously because of that awkward, silent, mocking, and difficult situation).
but come to think of it, yes. a boy and a girl can be just-friends. even if one (or both) have fallen in love with the other. they can be just-friends if they are strong enough — tough enough to keep their friendship, even when cupid’s arrows have already been pierced in the deep of their beings; otherwise if they havent realized yet the love there already is. yes, they can be friends. it’s called the friendzone. HAHA. but dude, it’s practically no longer that genuine friendship people ought to have, since here, the feelings of one (or both) are already meddling with the apparent malice-less relationship.
so it’s still a no. haha. okay, yes, at the beginning maybe. but after some time, forget about it. why? because admittedly or not, it’s all just part of growing up. HAHA. that only pretenders would say that things wont change, things would still be the same even after the invasion of love — that it will just be fine –when all the while, their perfectly sculpted friendship has been wrecked by some stupid emotional turn around.
haha, so what’s your say? cheers? :D
ps. i have boy friends, boy best friends even, but we stay friends. haha. (because i know myself and my own feelings. i have total control of my emotional programme. and besides, i have this strict understanding that if i became friends with someone, it will and shall be nothing more than that) i have my own beliefs and not even my own experiences could change that, what the hell. haha :)
i think it depends on each person…it maybe “yes” for some but “no” for others
true. it’s just me being stubborn and selfish here. hahah. thanks for shariiing :))
sorry for my poor english :D
yes and no… pwede bang dalawa ang sagot?
pwedeng pwede po. kahit fifty :D
pwede bang 75/25 or 25/75?
pwedeee. :D
‘even when cupid’s arrows have already been pierced in the deep of their beings’ – HA, great line! I agree with you that blokes and gals can’t be just friends. I know this from experience. I often fall for women who initially begin as my friends. I think it’s an inevitability. I mean, if you are friends, that means you like each other, and then one day you suddenly realise, ‘oh my, I have man parts, she has lady parts, why aren’t we together?’ or something to that extent.
Also, in regards to your ‘PS’; I run up and down the street saying I’m in total control and all that, when obviously I am not if I find myself eventually in love with one friend or another. I’m just saying – I’m glad you are in control ma’am, but are you really?
All in all really great, informative, opinionated, well thought out post! Me like! :D
haha yeay. im glad you liked it. :D
and trust me, i am really in control. haha. and well because i really do value the friendship which means more to me than be romantically involved. and every one of my close guy friends know that, so they have zero chance if something fishy suddenly comes up. haha!
i think one look at a person or any friend at that is all it takes to decide whether or not the relationship you want with them is platonic or otherwise. honestly, i don’t believe in people saying they never thought they will fall in love with this friend or that. i think you know in an instant whether or not someone has potential or otherwise.
it’s the vibes, the instinct maybe? haha. actually, i believe so too. i guess it’s just that people are either initially stereotyping or just in denial that’s why they say that they never thought theyd fall for another.
i’d go for in denial. :D
haha, perhaps. >:)
OMG Totally love this part:
so it’s still a no. haha. okay, yes, at the beginning maybe. but after some time, forget about it. why? because admittedly or not, it’s all just part of growing up. HAHA. that only pretenders would say that things wont change, things would still be the same even after the invasion of love — that it will just be fine –when all the while, their perfectly sculpted friendship has been wrecked by some stupid emotional turn around.
And I strongly agree with you! They cant be friends. Haha.They can be friends-friends but NOT best friends.
yes, yes, indeed. best friends schmest friends. :D hahaha, cheeeers! :D
i loved that too! hahahha thaaaankyooou! :’>
Invasion of love—-panalo to! Hehe!
hello, yana… ikaw na, ang dami mo talagang nako-cover na paksa… ^^ anyway, from experience, kokonti lang ang na-maintain kong friends na lalaki. after two years or a few years (sa ilan), usually they end up making ligaw or pumoporma. iyong iba, nagsasabi lang naman na kahit di sila film, sila ay na-develop, bow… pero, walang balak na i-pursue dahil feeling nila ay di sila ang hinahanap (ang insecure lang, hihi). doon sa mga nanligaw or nanuyo na dati nama’y friends lang, mas lamang ang nag-part ways after na sumubok. i remember only two guys na naging friends ko pa after manligaw and i think, only because, di sila nagpakita ng mahaba-habang panahon pagkatapos. saka, cool dudes talaga sila, ahaha.
generally, mahirap maging friends lang ang babae at lalaki, feeling ko. ang mga lalaki kasi, generally visual. pag napansin ka nila isang araw in a different light (bale, hindi mo bad hair day no’n), they start thinking things yata… saka, pag napansin nila ang sweet ways mo, ayon… usually, marami akong kasa-kasamang boys and men. hindi naman ako naasiwang makisalamuha and to make friends with them. as i age, ayon nga, medyo alam ko na ring after some time, may magpaparamdam. theory ko, mas madaling ma-develop ang mga lalaki lalo pa pag madalas na kasama ang babae, haha. ang sama ko… musta? ;)
wow haba ng haaaaair! hihi. dami nyo naman po manliligaw. bet! :D
same here, marami rin po akong friends na mga lalaki. mejo one-of-the-boys po kase ako kase di po ako yung tipong dalagang pilipina. hahaha. pero once na maging comfy (as in close friend-ish) po ako sa lalake, alam na po nilang hindi na yon lalampas don. kaya no one attemps kase magkaka lamat lang po yung friendship. nabubunyag nalang po yung ibang may feelings kapag may reminiscing moments like tambayan, inuman or whatever; pero past na po kaya hindi na rin counted. hahaha :)
hihi oks naman po ako. buhay parin. ;D kayo po kumustaaa? :))
nyeh… short-haired ang lola mo, since H.S. and there is hardly anything feminine about me, hehe. anyway, usually, buddy-buddy rin ako with boys, sa school man or sa work. one of the guys, ika nga… hmnn, am at least twice older than you, yata – am talking from that perspective when i say na mahirap na maging friends lang ang lalaki at babae. tingin ko, from 15 to 25, pwede namang magkakasama sila ng walang develop-an or untoward incidents, hihi. pero, past that, medyo mahirap na… ewan ko kung bakit. siguro, mas may awareness na, kumbaga ukol sa mga bagay-bagay. and medyo tough water sya kasi, most of the men na makakahalubilo, either in a committed relationship already or very much married, haha. so, kailangan, astig pero may konting grace din naman while pending off overtures ng mga nilalang na malalandi, haha. and so far, from what i encountered, karamihan sa kanila, mampi-flirt basta nakatyempo ng pagkakataon. haha, ayon… ^^
glad to hear you’re doing fine. warm regards, kapatid… ;)
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