can a boy and a girl really be just-friends?
a question i have been pondering on since time immemorial. haha. meh, i was just overwhelmed with all the cliches in the world involving that controversial friendship between a man and a woman. come on, i know, one way or another, you too have been on a debate about this matter — either with your crazy friends or just with your curious old self.
okayy, i was planning on laying down here things that would defend the yes and later on, the no, but i guess am too biased. HAHA. because personally, i dwell on the negative side.
indeed. i believe a boy and a girl can never be just-friends. because as implied of what i’ve mentioned above, at some point, one (or maybe even both) of them is bound to fall for the other, whether in secret or out in the open; that after some time, either (or both) would realize the worth of the other is more than that overrated confidant they think they have; that no one could help it when love itself caught one (or both) of them unguarded, breaking that supposed bond of forever-friendship. thus, it’s either that boy and girl become boyfriend-girlfriend — or not friends at all (obviously because of that awkward, silent, mocking, and difficult situation).
but come to think of it, yes. a boy and a girl can be just-friends. even if one (or both) have fallen in love with the other. they can be just-friends if they are strong enough — tough enough to keep their friendship, even when cupid’s arrows have already been pierced in the deep of their beings; otherwise if they havent realized yet the love there already is. yes, they can be friends. it’s called the friendzone. HAHA. but dude, it’s practically no longer that genuine friendship people ought to have, since here, the feelings of one (or both) are already meddling with the apparent malice-less relationship.
so it’s still a no. haha. okay, yes, at the beginning maybe. but after some time, forget about it. why? because admittedly or not, it’s all just part of growing up. HAHA. that only pretenders would say that things wont change, things would still be the same even after the invasion of love — that it will just be fine –when all the while, their perfectly sculpted friendship has been wrecked by some stupid emotional turn around.
haha, so what’s your say? cheers? :D
ps. i have boy friends, boy best friends even, but we stay friends. haha. (because i know myself and my own feelings. i have total control of my emotional programme. and besides, i have this strict understanding that if i became friends with someone, it will and shall be nothing more than that) i have my own beliefs and not even my own experiences could change that, what the hell. haha :)